What do I do with my pet’s belongings after they pass?
Losing a beloved pet is a rollercoaster of emotions, a bittersweet blend of love and loss. And then there's the question that slowly creeps in: 'What should I do with all their things?'
Sorting through their toys, beds, and leashes is like opening a book filled with stories you're not quite ready to read again. It's extra emotional if you're a one-pet household—every corner seems a bit emptier.
But before we get into some ideas of what you can do with your pet’s belongings after they’ve made that journey across the rainbow bridge, I’d like you take a moment to stop and hold space for yourself.
Take a deep breath.
If you’re looking for an answer to that question, I know you’re going through a tough time in your life right now.
You’re also not alone.
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When you're ready, and only then, I've got some heartfelt suggestions on how to honor your pet through their belongings. It's not just about storage or getting rid of their things; it's about cherishing memories while making space for healing.
First and foremost, there is no “should”
Whether you just got back from the vet or it’s been a few months (or more), there is no specific time that you have to take care of your pet’s belongings.
In many stages of grief, having them can be a comfort. Yes, they can also be a reminder of what’s been lost, too. But how we react to their presence will differ from person to person.
Which is exactly why you shouldn’t feel guilty if it’s “taking too long” to take care of your pet’s belongings after they pass.
The same goes for what exactly you do with them. Try not to fall down the rabbit hole of “I should do this” or “I should do that” with your pet’s things. Do only what you want and what feels right to you.
Keep things for yourself
When you're not ready to let go, storing your pet's belongings in a sacred space can serve as a comforting medium to feel connected to them. You can take these items out whenever you feel the need to reminisce and celebrate the joy they brought into your life.
And no, it’s not weird to give them a little sniff to remember their scent.
Treat toys/clothes like "hand-me-downs" and share with other pets (they’re grieving, too)
It's easy to forget that our other furry family members may be grieving, too. If you have other pets, consider passing down toys or clothes. The scent may offer them some comfort and a sense of closeness to their departed friend.
Create a memorial shadowbox
Shadowboxes offer a tangible way to honor your pet's memory and keep them close to your heart.
Yours could include:
Their collar
A favorite bandana
A small toy
A lock of fur
A leash
A paw print
A photo
Create a memory blanket
For the crafty pet parent, a memory blanket made from old blankets, bandanas, or even clothes can be a deeply personal keepsake. Every stitch can serve as a tribute to the love and warmth your pet gave you.
Not so crafty yourself? There are lots of small businesses on Etsy that make memory blankets for grieving families.
This one, Sandra’s Homemade, can even make a “memory dog” so you can still cuddle them whenever you need.
Give or donate: Turning loss into love
Sharing your pet's items can also serve as a beautiful tribute to their life. By offering these items to others in need, you extend the circle of love and comfort that your pet brought into the world.
Donate to rescues
Donating to local animal rescues is a profoundly touching way to give back. In a sense, it's like your pet is still spreading joy, love, and comfort to other animals who need it most.
Below are some local rescues where your pet's belongings could make a significant impact, supporting these organizations in their mission to provide care and find forever homes for animals in need.
Old Dog Haven, Oak Harbor
Dog Gone Seattle, Seattle
Resilient Hearts Animal Sanctuary, Seattle
Sunny Skies Animal Rescue, Puyallup
Give items to friends or family
If you know someone who's recently adopted a pet or could use some extra pet supplies, this act can transform your pet's belongings into heartfelt gifts.
Give pet food to a rescue or pet food bank
Did you know that pet food banks were a thing? Many communities have pet food banks that are always in need of donations. Your leftover pet food can go to help families in need to feed their pets.
Puget Sound Pet Food Bank, Tacoma
People for Animal Care and Kindness, Gig Harbor
Concern for Animals, Olympia
Seattle Humane Pet Food Bank, Seattle
Give to a homeless shelter (homeless folks have pets, too)
Along with pet food banks, homeless shelters could use support, too. Many homeless individuals have pets that offer companionship and emotional support during this tough time in their lives. Donating pet items to a shelter can make a world of difference for these pets and their owners.
It’s okay to throw them away
I know, I’m not a fan of being wasteful either. But I also know what it’s like to be stuck in the middle of an overwhelming cycle of anxiety and grief.
The seemingly simple act of figuring out what to do with them can be an overwhelming task, made worse if you feel like “I just need it gone”.
Know that it's absolutely okay to simply throw items away if the emotional burden becomes too overwhelming. Your grief is your own, and there are no rules for how you should cope.
Your pet's true legacy isn't in their belongings; it's in the love, laughter, and comfort they brought into your life. That is something that will forever reside in your heart, never to be discarded.
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